Bratty Girl

I’ve always been tall. At 25, I topped out at 5′10″. In my mind, tall equaled big. I longed to be petite. Adjectives that were supposed to define girls, like “dainty” or “cute,” don’t seem to coexist with “tall.” And in fairy tales, the princess never towers over her hero. He has to be able to scoop her up onto his white stallion to save her from the foul dragon. While other girls were looking up at guys batting their eyelashes, I found it was impossible to look coyly standing eye-to-eye.

Shopping was no picnic either. Everyone told me they would “die for long legs,” but they didn’t realize covering them was a chore. There were no inseams long enough (this was before the handy Capri pants came into style), and most skirts made me look like I was headed to work the street corner. And shoes? As birthdays crept by, it became increasingly difficult to look dressed-up wearing flats, but I did my best.

In college, a nightmare scenario loomed all too vividly in my mind. I could see a dashing young man across the room, our eyes meet; there are instant fireworks; dramatic music begins to play; he approaches….the record scratches. He is looking directly at my chin. Thus, while other girls were “shoe fanatics,” I merely lusted after gorgeous shoes I could never wear. I couldn’t bear the thought of being taller than even more guys than biology had dictated.

I did try heels. Once. When I was 19, I found an amazing pair of wedge heels too fabulous to pass up. The first time I wore them, I was with my best guy friend, who was also 5′10″. His exclamation of “Did you grow?” promptly curbed my heel fixation.

Then I met a gregarious, smooth-talking young lawyer from New York. In shoes, he stands 6’4″. His height instantly relegated the many other men I’d met in my lifetime, into the undatable category. He’s taller than me and for once, I felt really great. He was intelligent, witty, and damned attractive. Our first date was one to write home about. Good conversation, lots of laughter, and chemistry so thick I could hardly breathe.

Until one day, I found myself buying a pair of heels. Apparently I didn’t need therapy to deal with my issues; I just needed one really good date.

Now, we are still together, and my closet is lined with fabulous three-inch heels.

In my fairy tale, my hero didn’t rescue me from a dragon. He saved me from something far worse: a life without fabulous shoes.

Most of you believe in looks. Looks make the first impression, isn't it? What if you meet a stunner and after talking for some time, you find the person to be dumb? Does the idea of dating such a person excite you? Certainly not.

Though you think that looks matter a lot, it is not true. It is the personality that attracts. The best looking person who looks awkward while walking will not attract any positive attention. Personality has many ingredients. The way you walk. The style in which you sit. Your talking style matters quite a lot. If somebody has a loud voice, no romance can happen. Use of tone is very important. Same is true with choice of words. Those who picture with words are powerful creators. They can attract attention of any person. Look at your personality before deciding that you are not good dating material and don't deserve the best.

Most of you believe in looks. Looks make the first impression, isn't it? What if you meet a stunner and after talking for some time, you find the person to be dumb? Does the idea of dating such a person excite you? Certainly not.

Though you think that looks matter a lot, it is not true. It is the personality that attracts. The best looking person who looks awkward while walking will not attract any positive attention. Personality has many ingredients. The way you walk. The style in which you sit. Your talking style matters quite a lot. If somebody has a loud voice, no romance can happen. Use of tone is very important. Same is true with choice of words. Those who picture with words are powerful creators. They can attract attention of any person. Look at your personality before deciding that you are not good dating material and don't deserve the best.

Attraction can be defined. There is no scientific formula. Attraction comprises of many qualities. Some of them are perceived only by your subconscious mind. Pay attention to the personality and develop an irresistible personality to win the dating game.