Bratty Girl

Why do we like to root for the bad guy? We all do it from time to time. C’mon. Admit it. There’s a villain out there somewhere that you secretly want to win. You want Mr. Bad Guy to kick the hero in the butt, thwart the authorities, and convince the heroine to ride off into the sunset with him.

Sometimes, the villain is what really makes a story sing. Just look at the comics. Where would Batman be without the Joker? Or Professor X without Magneto? Or Spider-Man without Green Goblin? Snoresville, most likely.

It has been my observation that it isn't the "bad" in the boys that women are attracted to. It is the confidence. Yeah, you heard me. IMO, women (myself included) are drawn to their carefree and risk-taking nature as well as spontaneity. Bad boys are also unabashed about their actions, which can sometimes be equated to strength of character.

Some people have it. Some don't.

It's funny, some of the prettiest people I know - the ones who both males and females stare at because they're so in-your-face extraordinarily beautiful - have the lowest confidence.

And then there's some of those homely people who wouldn't know how to dress appropriately for the life of them and who don’t even care if they brushed their hair. Some of these people stand straight and tall and love themselves and think they're the best thing on the planet.

What makes someone have a high confidence level? Are they born with it?

In my opinion, confidence makes a person more attractive. Especially guys. You don't have to be the most gorgeous, most athletic or smart one out there. (But then again, if you're all of those, you sure are one hottie! *Sigh*). Ahem. Going back, it's all about the attitude really. Talk about individuality. It's how you carry yourself.

I think even the most confident person has a bad day. But a positive attitude and persistence is the key if you want to give off that air of assurance that many people find attractive.

So, can you teach someone to have the confidence to make them stand up and say, "I'm all that and more."?