Bratty Girl: 5 Reasons Lovers Leave

5 Reasons Lovers Leave

January 21, 2008

There are a lot of things that can go wrong in a relationship...it's almost depressing how many of them end each day, and sometimes for the dumbest, most avoidable reasons. If you think your relationship may be in danger, or are wondering what went wrong in your recent ex-relationship, take a look at the list I've made here. These are the top 5 "no-no's" of relationships.

1) Cheating on your partner. Absolutely inexcusable, and both guys and girls do it. I can't even tell you how many times my friends' and family's hearts have been utterly ripped from their chests because the people they love cheated on them. Being unfaithful shatters trust and causes the person being cheated on to doubt his or herself. If you love your partner, you love him or her enough not to cheat. If you can't control your sex drive enough to stay faithful to the love of your life, then you're nothing more than a subhuman animal and you deserve to be alone.

2) Being too controlling. Sure it's funny on TV when a professional comedian plays a hapless, good-natured guy with an evil witch of a wife who calls him every fifteen minutes to demand to know where he is...but in the real world that's not funny, it's exhausting. Don't think I'm just talking about women being too demanding either...guys do it too, and it's not a joke, it's not cute, and it's not justified. It's emotional abuse is what it is, and a lack of trust that's going to end up with you being quite lonely.

3) Lack of emotional support. Everybody has feelings, regardless of whether or not they like to advertise them. The one person we'd rightfully expect to honor and pay attention to those feelings is our partner. When the person you love doesn't consider or pay any attention to how you feel, it really hurts! I know TV has made it out to be that women are the only ones ever upset because their men aren't emotionally sensitive, but guys do have feelings as well. Don't neglect your partner's feelings, it's just needless hurt.

4) Fights that make too much of a difference. Face it, every relationship has troubles and therefore at some point or another there's usually a fight. Believe it or not, this is actually healthy...it allows you to get the air cleared about things that are making you unhappy, and makes everone aware of what needs to be done to bring the two of you closer together. The problem is that some people allow these fights to affect them too much, and they develop into all-out wars that shake the ver way people feel about one another. This is a bad misuse of a conflict...so basically all I can tell you is CHILL OUT and take heed of what's being said rather than blowing up.

5) Boredom and lack of spontanaeity. I feel physical pain every time I hear about a happy couple breaking up because the relationship became stale and boring. There is so very little reason why your time with the one you love should end up becoming more of a day-to-day routine than a constant joy. Do what's needed to make things stay interesting and fun! You're two great people in love, why shouldn't every day together be a blessing? Letting a relationship reach its expiration date should be a crime, because it's just such a tragic waste...

These are the five top "destroyers" of relationships...and most of them should never have a chance to ruin anybody's relationship because they're just ridiculous. Respectively, each one of these problems could be easily avoided by having just a little loyalty, trust, consideration, coolness of mind, and dedication! These are things I'd expect any happy couple to have...without them you'll be lonely and in pain, as will the person you love.

So before you do something that'll jeopardize your relationship, stop and think. Is it really worth it to hurt your partner and become alone? Have a brain, and have a heart.