What do you remember most after a break-up: the love or the hatred?
January 27, 2008
All of you get into a relationship because you feel euphoric love for your partner. You love whatever your partner does. That love makes you feel very good. You experience great joy and feel special. All this changes over a period of time for some of you.
First you begin finding mistakes in each other. Then you blame each other for small things. You blame each other for not caring. You start doubting if he/she was the same person you loved? Slowly this takes form of hatred. You begin to hate each other. You can’t stand each other anymore and soon decide to break up.
Now you have two memories. The first is that of love that brought you together and the second is that of the hatred that pulled you apart. What do most of you remember after the break-up? It is the hatred that is most remembered, isn't it? This is a paradox, but it is true. Why not remember love so you suffer less after the break-up?
First you begin finding mistakes in each other. Then you blame each other for small things. You blame each other for not caring. You start doubting if he/she was the same person you loved? Slowly this takes form of hatred. You begin to hate each other. You can’t stand each other anymore and soon decide to break up.
Now you have two memories. The first is that of love that brought you together and the second is that of the hatred that pulled you apart. What do most of you remember after the break-up? It is the hatred that is most remembered, isn't it? This is a paradox, but it is true. Why not remember love so you suffer less after the break-up?
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April 3, 2012 at 3:16 PM
Easier said than done! Especially when they like to come at you with lil "pot shots," "digs" and "quips" to you.............just to hurt you. I (unfortunately) dated someone who(said themself) "liked to argue." She also suffered from "Princess Syndrome." I tried to give her the respect and deceny of breaking up with her face-to-face, but I got pot shots and digs. I understand she was upset or hurt at the situation, but the need to get nasty is uncalled for. Sad to say, the nasty (and not in a GOOD way) is what I will remember.