Bratty Girl

I think it is pretty fair to say that all relationships start out pretty much the same way. You meet someone that interests you – you give them your number and then you wait and wait and wait for them to call. That’s right ladies there is the unwritten rule of the three day waiting period before he calls you for that date.

Before you know it you are seeing each other regularly, in fact you get all excited anticipating the next time you will see him. Both of you are on your best behavior – you are very conscious about the way you dress, how you interact and most important you take care of your looks – which means shaving your legs regularly, right ladies?

The relationship is moving along at a decent pace and before you know it you are a year or two into the relationship, you have moved from the dating to the exclusive stage. And, undoubtedly you have gone from the best behavior, conscientious, heart palpitating can’t wait to see you stage to the boy when he does (insert pet peeve) it really drives me crazy stage.

If all relationships start out the same and progress along a similar path why do some relationships last and others don’t? Why do you think some couples are happy after a long period of time and others are not? How do you know when he is the one or when you should bail?

The answer to all of these questions comes down to one simple answer – being a conscious dater. The conscious dater is the person who is really in tune with who they are and what they want in life. The conscious dater is able to attract the right partner into their life because they know what they require from a partner and a relationship and won’t settle for less.

So let me ask you this – do you know when he is not the one – before you get your heartbroken? Do you know what your requirements are? Do you know the difference between needs, wants and requirements and how they affect your relationship?

Determining whether he is the one or not is as simple as determining whether or not he matches your needs, wants and requirements for a relationship. What, you don’t know what your needs, wants and requirements are? Here is how to find out – take out three pieces of paper, on the top of the first page write needs, on the second page write wants and third page write requirements and make a list of each. Use this information to help you determine whether he is the one or not.

Needs are negotiable. If they go unmet, unrest is the result, but compromise or open communication can generally resolve this problem. Needs fall into two categories – functional and emotional. Functional needs are the routine events that must occur for your life to work the way you envision it. Emotional needs are the ones if met make you feel loved.

Wants are really the least important element of a relationship. One want is easily replaced with another when the first goes unmet or is satisfied. Wants are really not crucial for a successful relationship and should not be the sole basis as to why you are or are not in the relationship.

Requirements are the essential elements for a successful relationship. Requirements are non-negotiable or deal breakers. If your requirements are not being met, once you identified what they are, then you know for sure he is not the one - time to get out! Requirements support your relationship plan.