Bratty Girl

Women from all walks of life are becoming more adamant about finding Mr. Right. Most of them agree that he has to be more than a guy that is disease free. Although meeting this criterion is essential in today's day and age, most women would also like a man who possess certain “qualities”. The trouble, it seems, is that some of you don't know which qualities qualify a man for keeper status. That's where I come in.

How many times have you been out with your girlfriends, having a good time, and looking completely divafied from head to toe? The DJ is worth the price of admission. The bartender has a heavy pour. And your buzz kicks in just as you notice someone checking you out. The two of you make eye contact, and you hope none of your girlfriends has seen him.

Then he approaches.

Your heart flutters. You try hard not to let him see how nervous you are, but you are sure he does anyway. He smiles and his teeth sparkle. You melt. He tells you his name and you likewise. Then he asks you to dance. What do you do?

I'm sure that in the past you wouldn't have wasted anytime with shoving aside your drink and poking your tongue at your friends while being led to the floor. But this isn't the past. You're looking for a good man now, remember? A man with “qualities”. And the first quality that you should be concerned with is:

Honesty

Instead of heading to the floor for a grind-and-sweat session, ask him to have a seat. No, you're not going to interrogate him; you're simply going to ask him a quick question or two that could save you a lot of heartache.

What questions you choose to ask are up to you. The most important thing here is how he responds. If he has a drink, watch what he does with it after you ask your question. If he places it between you and him, nine times out of ten he is using it as a subtle way of creating a barrier between you and the truth. Also, he may shift away from you. This is because liars have a hard time keeping their bodies directly in front of those they are lying to.

Now let's say he answers all of your questions without raising your suspicion. You two have that dance and it turns out he has great moves. You give him your number, and several days later, he calls and asks to take you out. What other quality should you be looking for next?

Conscientious

Pay attention. When he talks, does he appear to be thinking before he speaks? If so, then you are with a man who thinks enough of you not to be a potty-mouthed, pseudo-tough guy who thinks that using colorful language is the quickest way to get you in bed.

A man also has you at the forefront of his thoughts when, during dinner, he asks if you like what you ordered and if you would you like to try what's on his plate. Feel free to translate that any way you like.

Okay, now you know he's thinking of you. What next?

Sensitivity

Let me first say that a man is not being sensitive when you catch him in your panties. That guy is probably gay. What you want is a masculine man who is sensitive enough to acknowledge your feelings, right? Well, here's how to know if you have such a man.

A few weeks pass and the two of you are starting to get closer. Then one day you have a bad day at work. You need to vent and so you tell Mr. Right. If he's a jerk, he'll shrug and say, "That’s life". But if he's a MASCULINE MAN who is sensitive to your feelings, then he'll give you a hug and call you at work the next morning to make sure things are going smooth.

Or, let's say he has a bad day at work. A masculine man who is sensitive to your feelings will always greet you with a smile. He will do this because he is conscious of the fact that you may have had a bad day as well, and he doesn't want to add to it.

If the guy has made it this far, then he's probably good to go. He only needs one more for a perfect grade sheet.

Caring

You can't get a good read on this “quality” until you are in a situation that calls for him to really be there for you (picking you up from work instead of letting you catch a ride with a co-worker doesn't count). If you're as strong as I think you are, then there aren't many times when you need someone to handle your lightweight. However, life doesn't always throw you the same pitch. Every now and again, you get a curveball.

Sometimes you get sick.

I know, I know, you don't want to think about your last cold. The sore throat. The dull ache in your forehead and the back of your neck. Your body feeling like it's on fire one minute then freezing the next. Ugh! But times like this are perfect for finding out who really cares about you.

If the guy in your life does, then he will not have a problem fluffing your pillows just the way you like it. Neither will he have a problem with cooking your soup or crumbling your crackers into itty-bitty pieces that are more suitable for swallowing. And, just in case you can keep your eyes open for more than five minutes, he will make sure the remote is always within arms reach.

And there you have it. This is a solid foundation to build any relationship on. Sure, there are other “qualities” to look for, but I am sure if the guy you are with has those aforementioned, then everything else will fall in place. Whether or not you get to see the whole package depends on if you possess the “quality” men like to see in a woman...

Patience.